Becoming a parent is a wonderful experience, and most parents say it's one of the greatest moments of their lives. But there's no question, it's also filled with challenges, and often one of the biggest challenges is calming a crying baby.
Your biggest priority in caring for your baby is to shower her with love and affection. Next you must feed her and keep her dry. Lastly, you will want to calm her when she cries. However, calming a fussy baby can be a challenge, if you don't know what to do.
Some babies are born with the sweetest, calmest disposition, and rarely cry. My first baby was like that. I could lay her down anywhere, and she was content. However, my second baby was always fussy, unless he was in his swing (we found out later he had some structural problem in his scull which was causing a minor headache all the time). My last three children had the typical fussiness that most parents are faced with. How I was able to calm them quickly is what I'll share with you here.
Babies cry for a number of reasons, and as a mother, you will soon learn how to distinguish between your baby's cries. Your baby will cry if she's in pain, if she's hungry, if she's wet or dirty, if she has digestive problems (i.e. gas, or if she's swallowed air), or if she just wants to be cuddled and close to you.
Very few babies cry because of gas pain, yet many parents will assume that their baby has gas when their baby is crying. I even read about a parent who gave her child medication for gas every day, routinely, just so her baby wouldn't get gas. That's not good for babies. I have only given my babies medication when truly needed, and never for an extended period of time as a preventive. I found it interesting, also, that the mom who gave her baby the medicine for gas said that her baby was still fussy, and that it did not seem to be helping. Probably because baby truly did not have gas, and she just needed help putting herself to sleep.
So wouldn't it be nice if you could know just how to stop baby crying within seconds of when it starts? Read on as I share five tips on just how you can do this. You will also have an opportunity to request free access to a page of videos of real parents using these techniques to stop their baby's crying. It's amazing to watch these tips in action!
If you've ever heard of a horse whisperer, you'll know that a horse whisperer is a person who uses very gentle training techniques to help a horse to become calm and peaceful. In much the same way, you can stop baby crying. I call this "Baby Whispering".
My definition of "Baby Whispering" is Developing a sympathetic view of baby's needs and desires, and then helping her to calm herself, resulting in a happy, content baby.
Dr. Harvey Karp, M.D. refers to the first 3 months of life outside the womb as the 4th trimester. If you think about it, when baby is inside the womb, she is constantly carried, constantly warm, constantly cuddled, and is used to hearing your heartbeat and the sound of your voice all the time.
When baby is born, she still needs all of those things to feel secure. Swaddling your baby tightly, holding your baby close, rocking your baby, and the sound of your heartbeat are all calming to your baby.
There is a large amount of stimuli outside the womb, and your baby has to adjust to that. Often, if your baby is overstimulated, she will cry and cry. It is our job, as parents, to help our babies to calm down, and what you will find, is that when you do the things that Dr. Karp teaches, the baby crying will stop within seconds. It's as if your baby has a calming reflex - a reflex that is triggered when you do one or more of the "Five S's."